Thursday, September 29, 2005

Update

Well apparently it didn't hit the fan too hard. (but I don't know if his family knows, and I don't care to be the one to tell them) Obviously K knows what's up and also my parents have an idea what's going on. No choice there, really. They have a big investment in the house and probably would want to know why I'm moving an hour away. All I told them was that K and I have had an open relationship for years now, and that I met someone, and now I'm moving out in a month. Whew. And I threw in the little tidbit that I've had girlfriends too, you know, to distract them. They didn't really want to walk down the TMI road, which was fine with me.

So. Yeah. Moving. Wow. And I've had plenty of offers of help, so I'm all good there. I have a nice big pickup I can borrow from the parentals. About the biggest thing I want to take is my big dresser with the mirror. I'm also required by family edict to take the cedar chest and the library table from the living room, as these are to stay in the family. Also, confession time. I, am a packrat. Yeah. So now begins the wonderful task of going through all my crap and figuring out what I really want to keep. Wish me luck. Will probably be having a late fall garage sale. Yay (not).

Monday, September 26, 2005

Crossroads

Warning: this has the potential to be long and rambling and I make no guarantees of the coherency of what I write. If you have any questions about what I say, please ask me instead of making assumptions. Wouldn't want to make an ass out of you and me, right?

I'm standing at an intersection in my life. Three directions to choose from.

I can continue on as I have been, straight ahead, stagnant, the next day pretty much the same as the last, with no prospect for change. I would keep both of the relationships I'm currently in.

To the right and left are those relationships, but singular.

The last few years I've just been floating along, no motivation but survival. Please don't misunderstand, there has been joy and love and happiness. But I felt stuck. I couldn't survive on my own. Nowhere to go. I felt like I was settling for what I had.

People are going to misunderstand. I'm not a fool. I realize that if I choose the direction I'm leaning towards that I will be the "bad guy." I call myself poly, why can't I make this work? Why do I feel myself more and more drawn away from one towards the other? Maybe I'm not poly.

We've worked things out, we've stayed together for six and a half years. He was the age I am now when we met. He lived at home due to circumstances I won't go into. A couple months into our relationship he was asked to resign from his job, basically fired. He was out of work for a while. Some people would have abandoned it at that point. But I wasn't going to be one of those people, I stuck with it. I loved him, still do. Went through periods of no work, contract work, until he got a more permanent job. One he liked and was good at. I graduated from college. My parents decided to sell the house and going with them wasn't an option. So whether we were ready or not we looked for a house and when we found one, bought it, with the help of both sets of parents. It was a struggle at times. I was out of work for a time and very depressed. But I got the job I've been at now for two and a half years. It's not much, but it pays the bills.

We had always said we were in a poly relationship, even though for most of it it was just the two of us.

And this is the point where FUCKING BLOGGER ATE MY POST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So, I'll try to remember what I said. Fuck.

Our foray into swinging was fun, but not what I really wanted. I wanted intimate friendships, people to both hang out with and cuddle and play with. People I wouldn't feel guilty having feelings for. I've got a few of them now, they know who they are.

Through a new friend I met someone. For a while he was just a font, a picture, but I knew finally that I had to meet him. When I saw him that first time, I knew. I just Knew. I journeyed to his house to see him. We danced around it, then finally I couldn't bear to leave without saying it. We cried, I did not want to leave. I've been back several times since, and each time it is harder and harder to leave.

Self-honesty has forced me to realize that loving someone is not the same as being in love with them. Because I know now what being in love is. I am hopelessly, wonderfully, amazingly in love! I Know this person, this man. We fit. Better than I ever have with anyone.

I'm not oblivious to the hurt I'm causing, will cause. If I could wave my wand and make it go away I would. But it may cause more harm to stay under false promises of working things out than to just go our separate ways. I will always love him, he was my life for almost seven years.

Now come the questions of what to do about the house. He can't afford to keep it without my income. I will help as much as I can to get it in shape to sell if necessary. And what to do about my possessions, which are most of the furniture in the house. And the cats. Which I won't impose on my love, because of his allergies. What do I say to my parents, to his parents, to my boss when I put in my notice? It won't be easy. Nothing worthwhile ever is.

So I guess I've made my choice. God and Goddess give me strength to walk the path I've
chosen. Guide me on my way. I know I do not walk alone. Blessed Be.

**note that I'm not entirely happy with this post. The one that blogger ate was somehow better, but this will have to do. **

Tuesday, September 20, 2005

Seriously.......

Give me a fucking break! Check this out.

And I totally agree with the Zero Boss's opinion on it.

Swingers are not what the country needs to be worried about!

Monday, September 19, 2005

Okay, so I'm really lame and haven't posted in a week. Yup.

Sorry, I really don't feel bad about it. I've been pretty busy dealing with things I'd rather not go into here at this time.

Lovely, fun relationship stuff.

Which was why it was really, really nice to get away from the house for three days and three nights. And that, I will post about as soon as I get it written, because it was much fun and happy happy joy joy!!!

Monday, September 12, 2005

Yes . . . I stole it. You caught me.

7 things I plan to do before I die:
1. Have a child.
2. Travel to Europe.
3. Build my dream house.
4. Have my own business.
5. See an ocean.
6. Have a new car
7. Be debt-free

7 things I can do:
1. Draw
2. Write
3. Cross-stitch
4. Cook
5. curl my tongue
6. suck my own toes
7. grow things

7 things I cannot do:
1. whistle
2. snap my fingers
3. blow a bubble (with gum)
4. sing
5. play an instrument
6. see without my glasses or contacts
7. crochet

7 things that attract me to the opposite sex:
1. Brains
2. Sense of humor
3. Aura
4. Strong hands
5. Eyes
6. Intelligence
7. Strength of self

7 things that I say most often:
1. I don't know
2. What the fuck?
3. Fark!
4. I just work here.
5. Please
6. Thank you
7. I love you.

7 celebrity crushes:
1. Gwen Stefani
2. Angelina Jolie
3. John Cusak
4. Kenny Chesney
5. Brad Pitt
6. Vin Diesel
7. Chad Kroeger
*HAVE YOU EVER...*
1. Kissed your cousin: No.
2. Ran away: No.
3. Pictured your crush naked: I don't really do that.
4. Skipped school: A few times.
5. Broken someone's heart: Yes, probably more than once.
6. Been in love: Yes, a few times.
7. Cried when someone died: Yes.
8. Wanted someone you knew you couldn't have: Yes.
10. Done something embarrassing: Absolutely, almost daily.
11. Lied: Yes
12. Cried in school: Yes

*WHICH IS [BETTER]...*
13. Coke or Pepsi: Neither, unless mixed with alcohol.
14. Sprite or 7UP: Same as above. I dislike carbonated drinks.
15. Girls or Guys: Yes.
16. Flowers or Candy: Yes.
17. Scruff or Clean shaved: Clean Shaven, but some beards are positively sexy.
18. Blondes or Brunettes: Yes plus red, gray, or balding!
19. bitchy or slutty: Slutty.
20. Tall or Short: Both.
21. Pants or Shorts: Skirts.
22. Night or Day: Both.

*WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX...*
23. What do you notice first: Self-confidence.
24. Like Being Spanked: Yes Sir, may I have another?
25. Worst Question For Him/her to ask: What are you thinking? I blank.

*LAST TIME YOU*
26. Showered: This morning
27. Stepped outside: Coming home from work today
28. Had Sex: with myself last night

*ABOUT YOU...*
29. Ever been Engaged/ Married: engaged, yes, married no
30. Your Good luck charm: Amethyst
31. Person You Hate Most: no one
32. Best Thing That Has Happened: I'm starting to live.
33. Where did it go?: Ask her.
34. Picture on your desktop: A 9 Chickweed Lane comic
35. Color: Purple
36. Movies: funny, dramatic, scary, thought provoking, violent.
37. Artist or band: too many to mention
38. Cars: VW's
39. Ice Cream: this time of year, pumpkin pie
41. Food: pizza

*WHO...*
42. Makes You Laugh The Most: my friends
43. Makes You Smile: My boyfriends and friends.
44. Can Make You Feel Better No Matter What: my friends.
45. Has A Crush On You: No idea.
46. Do You Have A Crush On Someone: Yes.
47. Who Has It Easier?: them
48. Gives You A Funny Feeling When You See Them: That one guy.

*DO YOU EVER...*
49. Sit By The Phone Waiting For A Phone Call All Night: Yes.
50. Save AIM Conversations: Yes.
51. Save E-mails: Personal emails: Yes.
52. Forwarded Secret E-mails: No.
53. Wish You Were Someone Else: Yes.
54. Wish You Were A Member Of The Opposite Sex: Yes.
55. Wear perfume: Vanilla
56. Kiss: Yes yes yes yes.....
57. Cuddle: As often as possible.
58. Go Online For Longer Than Eight Hours At A Time?: Yes. But I'm trying to not do that often.

*HAVE YOU EVER....*
59. Fallen For Your Best Friend?: Yes.
60. Made Out With JUST A Friend?: Yes.
61. Kissed Two People In The Same Day?: Yes.
62. Had Sex With Two Different People in the same day?: Yes, and more.
63. Been Rejected?: Yes.
64. Been In Love?: Lots.
65. Been In Lust?: Lots.
66. Used Someone?: Only if they asked me to.
67. Been Used?: Yes, usually by choice.
68. Dumped Someone?: Not a boyfriend, but can you dump a friend?
69. Been Cheated On?: No
70. Back Doored It?: Yes. Mmmm......
71. Done Something You Regret?: Yes.

*WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON...*
72. You Touched?: K
74. You tickled: Southpaw
75. You Instant Messaged?: Southpaw
76. You kicked: My cat (it was an accident, she's always behind me)
77. You Yelled At?: My cat (She knocked over a big glass of water)
78. You Dreamed About?: I'm not telling.
79. Who Text Messaged You?: don't do that
80. Who Broke Your Heart?: truly? someone I thought was a friend
81. Who Told You They Loved You?: K

*DO YOU...*
82. Color Your Hair?: Never.
83. Have Tattoos?: not yet
84. Have Piercings?: just my ears so far
85. Boyfriend/girlfriend?: two boyfriends
86. Own A Webcam?: No.
87. Own A Thong?: Not!
88. Ever Get Off The Damn Computer?: Rarely
89. Sprechen Sie Deutsch?: Nicht so gut.
90. Habla espanol?: No.
91. Buy Designer: No.

*HAVE YOU / DO YOU / ARE YOU...*
92. Stolen Anything?: little shit
93. Smoke?: Never
94. Schizophrenic?: No, but I do talk to myself
95. Obsessive?: At times.
96. Compulsive?: No.
97. Obsessive compulsive?: No
98. Panic?: Rarely.
99. Anxiety?: Often.
100. Stressed?: Often.

*FIRSTS*
First best friend: Renelle
First car: 1986 Chevrolet Cavalier Z-24
First screen name: same as now, but with different numbers
First funeral: My Grandma Nellie, I think
First album: (pause for embarrassment) New Kids on the Block
First pets: Prince (a cat)
First piercing/tattoo: my ears in the third (?) grade
First big trip: to Macinac when I was five
First time skiing: Hah! never
First concert: Garth Brooks, my boyfriend at the time liked country, so I did
First alcoholic drink: a wine cooler my parents gave me when I was like fifteen, sixteen
First job: babysitting
First date: must not be very memorable
First love: books


*LASTS*
Last car ride: Coming home from work
Last kiss: K
Last movie watched: Transporter
Last food you ate: Chicken and cheddar broccoli rice
Last love: excluding current loves, a high school friend
Last temptation: finish the chocolate I bought
Last item bought: cold medicine and candy
Last annoyance: cat knocking over a water glass
Last shirt worn: work polo
Last alcoholic drink: Smirnoff Twisted Cranberry
Last concert: Journey
Last phone call: at work
Last time at the beach: a couple months ago

Tuesday, September 06, 2005

Sara Evans - A Real Fine Place to Start

I'm gonna do it, darlin'
I could waste time tryin' to figure it out
But I'm jumpin' in anyhow
I've never been this far
Didn't know love could run so deep
Didn't know I'd lose this much sleep

(Chorus)
Holdin' you close
Chasin' that moon
Spendin' all night
Learnin' just who you are
Sparks flyin' in the dark
Shootin' out lights
Runnin' down dreams
Figurin' out
What love really means
Baby, givin' you my heart's
A real fine place to start

Somethin' is goin' on
And I can't explain but sure can touch
It's callin' both of us
Stronger than any fear or doubt
It's changin' everything I see
It's changin' you, it's changin' me

Holdin' you close
Chasin' that moon
Spendin' all night
Learnin' just who you are
Sparks flyin' in the dark
Shootin' out lights
Runnin' down dreams
Figurin' out
What love really means
Baby, givin' you my heart's
A real fine place to start

Right here, right now's
The perfect spot
The perfect time
The perfect moment
When your skin is next to mine
Yeah, yeah

Holdin' you close
Chasin' that moon
Spendin' all night
Learnin' just who you are
Sparks flyin' in the dark
Shootin' out lights
Runnin' down dreams
Figurin' out just
What love really means
Baby, givin' you my heart's
A real fine place
A real fine place to start Oh, yeah
Oh

Monday, September 05, 2005

1997 was definitely not the year of great music

The Mean Teacher had this meme on her page, which I shall now blatantly steal, because I really like her. It suggests you go to this page, cut'n'paste the top 100 tunes of your graduation year, and then mark your preferences and the songs you hate. I think I'll follow her lead and only leave the songs I don't hate, or as she put it, the " songs that didn't make me want to puke."

The Ten Top 100 Songs of 1997 That Didn't Totally Suck

15. Bitch, Meredith Brooks
38. Where Have All The Cowboys Gone?, Paula Cole
39. Sunny Came Home, Shawn Colvin
55. If It Makes You Happy , Sheryl Crow
60. Everyday Is A Winding Road, Sheryl Crow
63. Building A Mystery, Sarah McLachlan
64. I Love You Always Forever, Donna Lewis
69. Tubthumping, Chumbawamba
77. Secret Garden, Bruce Springsteen
94. Barbie Girl, Aqua (okay, this one is a guilty secret, I know it's annoying, but I think it's a hilarious song)